Victoria Shalet

Humanistic Psychotherapist and Certified Relational Life Therapist 

I believe we are all wired for connection—and that we each have the capacity to live more deeply relational, satisfying lives. I see the therapeutic relationship as a safe and confidential space that can support and guide us toward that potential.

Originally trained in humanistic psychotherapy, my work with individuals and couples is now primarily informed by Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy (RLT). This powerful, integrative approach helps partners navigate conflict, build accountability, improve communication, and cultivate greater intimacy. The goal is to foster relationships that are more connected, conscious, and fulfilling.

Relationships inevitably move through cycles of harmony, rupture, and repair. Many of us were never shown how to navigate these cycles in a relational way, which can leave us stuck in unhelpful patterns that prevent deeper connection. RLT offers a compassionate yet direct lens through which we can examine ourselves, challenge old patterns, and learn new ways of relating—both to our partners and to ourselves.

My work integrates talking therapy with elements of Gestalt, formative experiments, and RLT skills, creating an experiential and collaborative process. Together, we explore what’s not working, what’s possible, and how to move toward more satisfying ways of being in relationship.

Before becoming a psychotherapist, I spent over two decades working as an actor in film, television, theatre, and radio. This immersive experience of observing and portraying the human condition deepened my curiosity about why we do what we do—and how our internal world shapes our behaviour and relationships.

As both a parent and a step-parent, I also understand the joys and challenges of family life. I bring this lived experience into the therapy room, along with a grounded appreciation for the kind of support needed to show up as our best selves in the context of intimate and family relationships.

  • Adults, Couples

  • British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy

    Relational Life Institute