Victoria Shalet

Humanistic Psychotherapist and Certified Relational Life Therapist 

I believe we are all wired for connection—and that we each have the capacity to live more deeply relational, satisfying lives. I see the therapeutic relationship as a safe and confidential space that can support and guide us toward that potential.

Originally trained in humanistic psychotherapy, I now work primarily with Relational Life Therapy (RLT), developed by Terry Real. This integrative and dynamic approach supports individuals and couples in navigating conflict, building accountability, improving communication, and cultivating genuine intimacy. The aim is to foster relationships that feel more connected, conscious, and fulfilling.

All relationships move through cycles of harmony, rupture, and repair. Many of us were never shown how to navigate these cycles in healthy, relational ways, which can leave us repeating patterns that limit closeness. RLT provides a compassionate yet direct framework for examining those patterns, challenging what no longer serves us, and learning new ways of relating—both to others and to ourselves.

Alongside relational work, I also incorporate Brainspotting—an experiential, brain-based approach that helps access and process emotional experiences held beneath conscious awareness. Brainspotting works with the understanding that “where you look affects how you feel.” By identifying specific eye positions linked to stored emotional material, we can gently access and release trauma, attachment wounds, and deeply rooted patterns that talking alone may not fully reach. This allows for deeper integration and lasting change.

My work blends talking therapy with experiential elements drawn from Gestalt practice, formative experiments, RLT skills, and Brainspotting. Therapy becomes a collaborative and active process: together we explore what isn’t working, what is possible, and how to move toward more satisfying ways of being in relationship.

Before becoming a psychotherapist, I spent over twenty years working as an actor in film, television, theatre, and radio. Immersing myself in the portrayal of the human condition deepened my curiosity about why we behave as we do—and how our inner worlds shape our relationships.